Welcoming a New Yr – The Different Finish of the Leash

I’m scripting this on Monday, January 2nd, the yr two thousand and twenty three. An arbitrary date, after all, relying on the whims of historical past and tradition. But, I really like the ritual of dipping into the river of time, and the reward it provides us to replicate and look forward.

You all know, little doubt, that New Yr’s Resolutions are a wonderful option to disappoint your self–given how rapidly they have an inclination to fall off the desk. I ended making them years in the past, (see my “Not Resolutions of 2010” for instance) however nonetheless love the concept of setting intentions for the yr to come back.

I did a variety of studying over the vacations, and was impressed by an article authored by Amanda Morris about NY’s resolutions, impressed by individuals with disabilities. Claire Richmond, who has a uncommon liver situation, mentioned she thinks about how she needs to really feel within the new yr, not what she needs to do. I really like that. LOVE IT.

What about you? How do you wish to really feel in 2023? Attention-grabbing query isn’t it–and naturally, it drives what we do anyway, proper? Right here is my record; I’m trying ahead to yours:

   Taken by Steve Dahlgren


I wish to really feel LOVED AND LOVING. If I might decide just one factor, this is able to be it. There are many causes for that, together with the information that feeling liked and loving make me happier than the rest on the earth. A lady can’t dwell on Chocolate, Cosmos, and Netflix alone. Apart from being blissful, feeling liked seems to be a vital predictor of general well being, in keeping with a research described in The Good Life, primarily based on a long-time research of individuals from each rich and poor neighborhoods. Most New Yr’s Resolutions, by the way in which, change into primarily about well being, in keeping with one research. Train extra, eat higher, and so on.

However why? Why train extra? Why eat higher? To be wholesome proper? However why be more healthy? I don’t understand how most individuals would reply that, however I’d say to dwell an extended, and blissful life. After all, train and dietary meals are loopy necessary, however . . .  so is feeling liked and loving, and in keeping with the research above, extra necessary than the rest.

Talking of feeling liked, you realize I’m going to the canine now, proper? I don’t wish to low cost, in any means, how a lot Jim’s love, and the love of family and friends imply to me. They’re the perfect issues in my life, fingers down. However, shut behind are my canine. I don’t understand how I’d’ve made it by means of the lengthy, darkish winter of a painful divorce with no canine to twist up with at night time. I really like watching Skip and Maggie play collectively a lot that I get depressed if one is injured they usually can’t play. I really like them a lot typically it hurts, and their love for me feels boundless, pure, and unstated. (All the higher that they will’t, from time to time, blurt out one thing chopping, as I write about in For the Love of a Canine.) I might go on about canine and love for pages, however I’ll power myself to cease right here, after feeling overwhelmed with gratitude for all they they provide us.

Feeling liked. Sure. Feeling Loving. Sure. Now my job is to determine what conduct to encourage to assist that–extra talks with my nieces, extra visits with household, extra time laughing with associates. I’d say “extra telling Jim how a lot I really like him,” however I do this a number of occasions a day (and he does for me), so we’ll simply you should definitely preserve that up. Feeling liked and loving additionally makes me really feel grateful, among the finest emotions of all.

I wish to really feel AMUSED, CURIOUS, DELIGHTED, and AWED. All of which, actually, is about feeling JOYFUL. I get bored actually simply. Actually, actually simply, which is why I LOVE touring to new locations, seeing dwell performances, studying new issues, laughing at nice comedy–together with the wit of lots of our associates. This yr, whereas nonetheless being cautious about Covid and The Subsequent Horrific Well being Scare Lined As much as Terrify Us, I’m going out of my option to create a world that features journey, studying new issues, laughing with associates, and being awe-struck by the wonder that surrounds us. I’ve already deliberate a couple of issues, some large, some small, that make me smile simply desirous about them. You?

I additionally wish to really feel ENERGETIC. This is perhaps one other means of claiming wholesome, however I really like that it focuses on the sentiments I would like, not the actions. I really like so many issues in life, and the very fact is that they take power. Feeling filled with power is tougher if we’re sick, or in unhealthy well being, full cease. It’s additionally tougher as we become old, one thing staring me on the face currently after my 74th birthday. Specializing in feeling energetic makes it simpler, for me anyway, to consider what I eat, moderately than some generic “eat more healthy” mandate, and even one thing extra particular and measurable (good issues for efficient resolutions) like “eat extra beans and nuts.” I’m engaged on that very factor, (Amy’s French Nation Vegetable Soup for lunch, simply saying), however framing it as feeling energetic versus being wholesome works higher. However that’s simply me. You?

I wish to really feel RESPONSIBLE and ACCOMPLISHED. I simply can’t dwell on this world with out being an actively-involved citizen. I simply don’t really feel like I’ve the proper, with my fairly good well being and fairly good assets, to disregard the issues round me, regionally and globally. I used to be very energetic final yr in a lot of points, and after a short pause, I’ll be again at it in 2023. My problem is to just accept that I can, and can, solely achieve this a lot; that I can’t remedy local weather change and struggling and abuse all on my own. Neither am I prepared to dedicate my life to it, though others do and I applaud them for it. I’ll be engaged on forgiving myself for not doing extra, and being compassionate about my decisions. (You by no means hear about a lot of this work, as a result of it’s political, and it’s SO necessary to me, and lots of of you too I hear, that we preserve politics out of this area.)

I additionally like to perform issues. The roots of this little doubt started a very long time in the past. Like so many people, it was my accomplishments that acquired consideration and reward whereas rising up. We speak about this in my Meditation class, how frequent it’s to be seen for what you’ve performed, versus who you’re. One helpful phrase in our class is “Nothing to Be,” as in “You’re sufficient simply being alive.” I treasure this idea, and . . . it’s difficult for me, as a result of I really like checking issues off, and searching again at what I’ve performed. Proper now, I’m enthusiastic about ending a primary draft of my thriller novel in a couple of months. So . . . that’s my problem for 2023–the right way to maintain collectively each liking to get issues performed, and not needing to get issues performed collectively, and savor that they will dwell aspect by aspect, harmoniously and in contradiction.

I wish to really feel PEACEFUL. Okay, this might sound actually contradictory with all above, however it’s probably not. I wish to have peace concerning the decisions I make. Peace in specializing in what I’m doing moderately than “monkey minding” my means by means of doing the chores, making dinner, washing my hair. It will at all times be a decision for years to come back; I’m engaged on it now–savoring the breeze and hen music whereas strolling the canine, having fun with the texture of my canine’s fur whereas brushing them out, moderately than what I’m making for dinner–however I’ll by no means cease needing to give attention to one factor at a time for the remainder of my life.

WAIT, DON’T DOGS DO ALL THIS ALREADY? I did not design this submit to summarize with this, however it actually occurred to me whereas writing within the final paragraph that canine do all these with none desirous about it. They’re as loving, most of them, as any creature on earth. They appear particularly attuned to receiving love from us. They’re amused, curious, and delighted a lot of the time, a minimum of the canine that I have a tendency to like. Whether or not canine can expertise awe in the identical means that we do is up within the air, however I wouldn’t be shocked if they will. Achieved and Accountable? Did I point out that I’ve Border Collies? I want I might carry you all to the farm to observe Skip throw his coronary heart and soul into getting the one, sick ewe into the barn for therapy, or Maggie’s face when she wins the tug toy from Skip. You don’t have to put in writing To Do lists to really feel both accountable and completed. I admit that not all canine match into this class–our Cavalier Tootsie’s accomplishments had been warming our laps (and nicely performed too!) and reminding us, very responsibly, when it was time for dinner. However nonetheless, canine, just about embody all of it.

And also you? Are you reflective this time of yr? Considerate concerning the yr to come back? Make New Yr’s Resolutions, and preserve them? Or not? I’d like to have a village-wide dialog about this. Please ask your canine to chime in if they may. (Maybe I ought to write a separate submit primarily based on their resolutions? I can see it now: “Discover methods to encourage Trisha to drop extra meals on the ground.” (Maggie) “Work sheep twice, not as soon as, a day.” (Skip.)

MEANWHILE, again on the farm: Immediately, shock!, was a kind of days that didn’t start as anticipated. Life occurred, and my plans of spending a couple of energetic, curious, and pleasant hours taking pictures for this week’s submit are off the desk. (And I’m so peaceable about it!) So, I depart you with these pictures, together with a basic southern Wisconsin winter woods scene, full with a canine (Skip) someplace in it. I didn’t take this with any intention of taking part in canine The place’s Waldo, like many others have. However after I acquired again from our stroll, I seemed on the pictures, remembering I’d taken considered one of Skip on the Woods Path. However, the place was Skip? I used to be positive he was within the picture.

He was. And is. Your job, if you would like it, is to seek out him. I offers you a touch: He’s there, however very small. Look very, very laborious. (No dishonest in feedback in case you’ve seen this on Fb!)

Right here’s one other scene once we nonetheless had snow on the bottom–we actually did have a winter wonderland for awhile:

We acquired very fortunate within the large storm–chilly sure, very, and windy sure, very, however no severe harm and solely 4-5 inches of snow. Whew. And now we’ve got my least favourite–ice mud. Virtually all the snow is gone, besides patches of slippery ice and snow the place you least count on them, framed by the form of mud we don’t normally see till March. Heaps and many towels, as a result of heaps and many muddy paws. Sigh.

I’ll depart you with the Oak that I name the Mom Tree. I stroll by her on our Woods Trial, and love her like a pal. Could you are feeling as loving, and liked, as I do, and impressed by the great thing about nature round us.

However wait, a reward in case you’ve saved going! Right here’s a zoom in of Skip within the woods, simpler to see him for positive. He’s not within the foreground, however nearer to the start of the sky, up in opposition to some wooden. See him now? No? I’ll ship a simple model subsequent week!









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